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'You feel that you're not alone' - the young people finding community in grief

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Too Young to Grieve now spans more than 20 locations across the UK, the US, and Australia, serving individuals aged 18 to 35. The community brings members together through casual, in-person activities like hiking, pottery painting, and football tournaments. While schools elsewhere face a September 2026 mandate for grief lessons, Northern Ireland's Department of Education maintains that local institutions rely on existing pastoral care policies. Organizers emphasize that these communal spaces help normalize grief and provide crucial comfort for adults navigating early loss.

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  • Young adults aged 18 to 35 use casual group activities to discuss bereavement and combat…: Young adults aged 18 to 35 use casual group activities to discuss bereavement and combat feelings of isolation.
  • Peer-led meetings allow members to normalize their complex emotions by connecting with ot…: Peer-led meetings allow members to normalize their complex emotions by connecting with others facing similar early loss.
  • Advocates continue pushing for formal grief education in schools to address the notable s…: Advocates continue pushing for formal grief education in schools to address the notable shortage of youth-focused bereavement resources.

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Luke Alfano was 21 when his dad, who just two weeks earlier had been diagnosed with cancer, died.

At the time, Luke did not know what to do or where to turn.

Five years later, he founded Too Young to Grieve, a community offering young people a casual space to "have a moan, have a laugh, talk about your grief and just know that people understand you".

The group is based in more than 20 locations, including London, Manchester, the US and Australia - and now, Belfast.

Losing someone you love is never easy. But for Luke, the shock of his dad dying so suddenly, and so early in Luke's life, was especially difficult.

"I lost my dad when I was 21. I didn't feel like there was much out there for young adults experiencing loss," Luke told BBC News NI.

"That initial first year or two, I didn't really know what was going on.

"I didn't know what this thing called grief was, I just ignored it."

It was not until Luke, then 25, lost his grandmother…

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