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Psychology says avoiding someone you know in public isn't always social anxiety

By · Via Times of India · Published by Everything Blog

In short

Looking away toward a phone or store display allows people to signal that they are unavailable for spontaneous small talk. Sociologist Erving Goffman described how public spaces rely on subtle visual cues to govern whether an encounter demands an interaction. Research demonstrates that while social anxiety can reduce eye movements, passing an acquaintance carries unique pressures that lead even typical individuals to dodge conversations.

Key points

  • Avoiding visual contact serves as a deliberate strategy to prevent the perceived obligati…: Avoiding visual contact serves as a deliberate strategy to prevent the perceived obligation of an unscripted conversation.
  • Dodging an acquaintance in public spaces is often a practical response to being tired, di…: Dodging an acquaintance in public spaces is often a practical response to being tired, distracted, or hurried.
  • Visual avoidance can be linked to anxiety, but it is not an automatic indicator of a soci…: Visual avoidance can be linked to anxiety, but it is not an automatic indicator of a social disorder.

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You are walking through a shopping mall when you notice someone you know approaching from the opposite direction. You recognise them immediately. But instead of smiling or saying hello, you look at your phone, turn towards a shop window or suddenly become very interested in something on the other side of the corridor.

You are not angry with the person. You may even like them. But the thought of stopping, exchanging greetings and getting into a conversation you had not planned for feels inconvenient. So you keep walking and hope they do not notice you. This small social behaviour is more common than people might admit. While it is tempting to call it rude or unfriendly, psychology and social research offer another way to understand it: people sometimes manage eye contact and attention to control whether an interaction begins.

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